Daly Gem: “Addicted to Approval? Here’s How To Break Free”

Not long ago I was sitting in my Himalayan salt bath, listening to Enya, doing a little EFT tapping on self- limiting beliefs and listening to my own coach, Nancy Levin, on Hay House Radio ๐Ÿ™‚

What she said literally made we fly up out of my piles of bubbles and barely miss knocking over my essential oil diffuser (lavender I believe...)

"Living in approval of yourself is the antidote to worry."

Say that again?

"Living in approval of yourself is the antidote to worry."

For a "people pleasing, cape wearing, make it all right, worry wort" this really hit home. Do I approve of myself? Do I not only "approve of" but love the way I live my life?

A feeling of calmness washed over me at the prospect of living in approval of myself. A familiar knowing seeped into my body, my mind, my heart, and soul as I began to embody this feeling of acceptance.

In the past, I looked for approval from others regarding my choices in life from how I wore my hair to what career path I took. I even second guessed my own intuition regarding personal needs/preferences and would seek validation from outside sources that my requests to a partner, family, or boss were legitimate.

What was behind this need for approval?
Worthiness.

And what happens when we don't feel worthy?
We burn up our own energy trying to be of value to others... to the extreme.

Then what happens?
Resentment.

Phew. Even thinking about it wears me out.

It's a bit of a vicious cycle yet the answer is so simple and contained in the form of a single question:

"What is my preference?"

The magic happens in the moments within the hours within the days when we have the choice to think certain thoughts, say certain things, and behave in certain ways. When we actually pay attention to how we want to feel and honor what we desire, we begin making choices that feel right and life begins to flow with more ease.

Shifting from the need for outside approval to holding it safely within ourselves is a game changer. Pretty soon, we become so at peace with who we are that step by step we fall in love with ourselves. Pretty soon, people and opportunities begin showing up that mirror this approval and self-love we have cultivated within ourselves.

So how do we write our own love story?

How do we fall so madly in love with ourselves that our lives begin to feel lighter and lovelier?

Here are a few tips from my arsenal...

Develop a Morning Ritual.

  • Open your eyes and say "Thank you"
  • Ask "What is one loving thing I can do for myself today?"

Develop powerful questions to instruct your inner wisdom and subconscious to show you the answers:

  • ย โ€œHow do I want to feel in my work, my home, my relationship?โ€
  • โ€œHow can I begin to create these feelings today?โ€
  • โ€œWhat is one action step I can implement immediately?โ€

Affirm it with a visual anchor

  • Grab a dry eraser marker and on your mirror write โ€œI approve of you!โ€ or โ€œI love you!โ€
  • Choose a picture to put on your desk at work.
  • Put on a favorite song every morning that anchors you to the feelings you want to feel.

When we make the conscious choice to begin loving ourselves with baby steps and consistency, signs and synchronicities begin showing up pointing us in direction of joy, success, and freedom.

Do you approve?

XO-
Meg

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